As we walk from our crossroads, our next step is to rebuild our identity of who we are. Specifically, we need to identify the voices in our head or the stories we tell ourselves, be it positive or negative voices. We are always justifying what we want, especially when we need an excuse to do something we want that may not be in our best interest in the long term, for example, over-eating in a buffet as you want to make your money’s worth!
It is essentially our values that are the building blocks of our identity. Whether we list them out or not, our values are the underlying factors that determine our choices and decision making. Your values make you who you are!
Hence, it is important to find out your values, write them down, and evaluate if you are living your life in congruence with your values, or just drifting with wherever the wind blows and doing whatever your family/friends even society think you should be doing.
Congruence is speaking and acting on the things that honor who you are. – Live Your Legend
I first heard of the word ‘congruent’ in the 
