When your overthinking gets in the way of what you want

Do you tend to overthink?

Are you your worse critic?

Does your overthinking “speaks” so loud that it gets in your way?

When I saw the title of the podcast – “The Surprising Solution to Overthinking”, I didn’t think twice to listen to it! It was Andy Stanley’s interview with Jon Acuff on his book, “Soundtracks: The Surprising Solution to Overthinking”. He chose the title to depict how a soundtrack can change the entire emotional feel of a movie without changing the movie. Similarly, our thoughts can change how we feel without changing the circumstances we are facing.

Jon Acuff defines overthinking this way: when what you think gets in the way of what you want. When thoughts get in the way of what you desire, and it turns into bitterness and haunts you.

This overthinking habit tends to stop you taking action, leading to undesired results of not achieving your hopes and dreams. You can hear the same “soundtrack” when you encounter the same circumstance. For example, when you want to lose weight, your soundtrack constantly reminds you of how many times you’ve failed.

This is the Trojan Questions that Jon Acuff suggested in his book:

1. Is it true?

2. Is it helpful?

3. Is it kind?

These three simple questions help us to seek truth and clarity in our thoughts. Many times, our thoughts are assumptions of what other people think, or scripts that we have narrated from our childhood, e.g. I am bad with numbers or I am not bright. Next, we need to find out if these thoughts are helpful to what we want to achieve. Lastly, we have to be gentle to ourselves and not let our thoughts overwhelm us and keep us in an infinite loop of self-sabotage. I think the last question is the hardest to answer.

This is my invitation to you today – be aware of the soundtracks that are playing in the movie of your life. Let the soundtrack be a crescendo of courage and excitement as you reach for your hopes and dreams.

Dig Deeper by Asking WHY 5x

I completed Andy Stanley and Lane Jones’ book, Communicating For A Change, within 3 days. I have been listening to Andy Stanley’s podcasts for many years. I love the way he is able to clearly convey the message simply and to the point. And he loves to make the words rhyme or have fancy acronyms.

This got me reflecting on the reasons I am writing my blog. These past years, I have chosen random topics from books I read, videos I watched, or insights I have gained. Things that interests me, things that could help and inspire others, things that I felt the Holy Spirit prompting me to share.

Today, I want to dig deeper into the WHYs I write my blog weekly:

  1. WHY? I want to help people get out of the cycle of daily grind and mundane living, to living an Intentional Life of Greatness and Abundance
  2. WHY? Because I truly believe that I have been created for MORE. It’s just that I have been comfortable for too long, and I dread getting out of my comfort zone
  3. WHY? Because when I do things out of my comfort zone, I garner the courage to explore new things and have an opportunity to elevate to a higher level, even if it might be strewn with failures along the way
  4. WHY? Because failures can teach me new life lessons, strengthen my character and build my resilience
  5. WHY? Because I am truly grateful for the many blessings in my life, and I am honoured for having this platform to share my insights which I hope can help and inspire others

This is my journey from daily grind to Blessed Abundance, more importantly, From Ordinary To Extraordinary. And my invitation to you to join me on this amazing journey to become Extraordinary!

Each of us can achieve extraordinary in our own terms, when we overcome our own struggles and challenges, and elevate to become the best version of ourselves. If you believe that you are created for more, then have this pursuit of an extraordinary life. Don’t settle for ordinary. Go for extraordinary! Imagine what our families, communities and corporations could be, if all of us elevate from ordinary to be extraordinary!!! And what a legacy we will leave for our future generations.

Let’s march on: From Ordinary To Extraordinary!

Direction Determines Destination

Intentional Living – Direction Determines Destination

In Andy Stanley’s podcast, The Beginner’s Guide to Predicting Your Future, he says that you have the ability to predict your future by paying attention to where you’re headed. It is your Direction, not Intention, that determines your Destination. Therefore, as we elevate to the next level in our lives, we need to make sure we are heading in the direction that we want to go.

We always have the intention to do many good things, like losing weight or changing to a better job,  but many times we find ourselves doing things in the opposite direction. We need to realize that the direction of our actions will ultimately determine where we end up, irregardless of our best intentions. That’s why Andy Stanley says that we can predict our future by paying attention to where we are headed.

Are our choices, decisions and actions leading us to where we want to go? If not, then it is time to change our direction to where we truly want to go.